A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Holidays
Just the time it takes to get holiday ornaments out of storage and unwrap them merits a glass of wine (or three), and that’s before the hard work even begins. From cooking to decor to all the logistics, CPEing any holiday is like running an event-planning company—sans the paycheck. When the kids want to attempt their own impossible-to-make (but too-cute-to-resist) Halloween costumes, this cardholder will make the Magic happen. Same goes for figuring out who’s hosting Thanksgiving, organizing Easter brunch with second cousins twice removed, and every other holiday and special ritual that your family celebrates. Saving grace: “Travel,” “Gifts (Family)” and “Magical Beings” cards are not included in this card. In other words, leaving cookies out for Santa isn’t on you.
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
You celebrate holidays
Planning
Exception: “Gifts (Family),” “Gifts (VIPs),” and “Magical Beings” (e.g., Santa) are separate cards.
- Conceiving a holiday plan (discussing with “Travel & Hosting” cardholders) for:
- Family specialty dishes
- Decorations/décor
- Day of holiday festivities/rituals/family gatherings
Execution
- Executing a holiday plan
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Is the holiday reflective of your traditions that will create lasting memories and family nostalgia?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.