A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Spirituality
This card looks and feels different to everyone—perhaps even within your own home—so all the more reason you should consult your partner in the Planning to make sure you’re on the same page. (Ahem, you don’t have carte blanche to join a cult just because it’s your card.) It may involve attending church/synagogue/mosque, planning events like communion or a bar/bat mitzvah, establishing a relationship with clergy members, enforcing dietary beliefs, creating a family meditation ritual, or any number of ways you decide to make spirituality a part of your family’s life.
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
You want to practice spirituality
Planning
- Researching local churches/temples/synagogues/spiritual centers in your area
- Registering for Sunday school / Hebrew school / confirmation class
Execution
- Attending religious services on holidays or weekly
- Educating children / rituals in the home
- Buying high holiday tickets (if applicable)
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Is your life one where there is a practice of a higher purpose? Does it include your children?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.