A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Showing Up & Participating (Kids)
One dad admits that he spent nearly a month complaining about the daddy/daughter dance at school, dreading everything from the small talk with other dads to the awkwardness of busting out his moves. Ultimately, he went, and it turned out to be pure Magic for both him and his growing-up-too-fast fourth grader. You’ve got to show up for and participate in your child’s events, big and small, for the Magic to happen. Re-deal this card frequently to make sure it does.
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
You need to show up for the kids
Planning
*Note: No CPE other than showing up on time. Play this card to feel included but not to have to do any of the work of the other cardholders.
Execution
- Attending (on time) children’s games, shows, recitals, and other special presentations, curriculum/development/education nights
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Are you on time when you say you are going to be?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.