A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Calendar Keeper
You know how some business executives have an assistant to schedule all their meetings and events? Well, your family is busier but you have no one. It’s up to you to create a system that works for your family so everyone knows what’s on the calendar day to day and week to week and plans accordingly. Just when you think you’ve nailed the schedule and hung it on the wall, you’ll find out that soccer practice is on the same day as Boy Scouts and you’ll be back to square one. Add in your own commitments along with your spouse’s, and you’ve got a job with more moving parts than a millipede.
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
Events need to be managed
Planning
- Researching how to keep a shared calendar/joint calendar option/app
- Pick a shared calendar option
- Conversations/coordinating/tracking invitations with other cardholders
Execution
- Adding/deleting appointments
- Creating kids schedules for helpers with “Childcare Helpers” cardholder
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Does everyone know where they need to be before they have to be there?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- It’s a Daily Grind: relentless and time-bound. Make sure each of you holds a fair share of these, ideally one from each suit.
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.