A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Friendship & Social Media (Kids)
Caregiving suit Daily GrindKids
Do you know who your kids are playing with IRL and online? Unless your children come home from school in tears confiding in you, how would you know if they’re hanging with the wrong crowd, feeling left out, or being bullied? Make it your business to plug in (get it?) to your kids’ social dynamics online and also help plan and supervise playdates, sleepovers, and any other kid get-togethers.
Holding this card means owning all three
C
Conception
The kids need friends
P
Planning
- Friendship detective questions (evaluating child’s social situation to see if they are making connections with others, that is, asking appropriate questions of child: who they play with at recess, who they sit with at lunch etc., is anyone bullying them at school, are they confident in who they are spending their time with)
- Discussing friend situation with child at start of school year and working with “Teacher Communication” cardholder on any issues
- Planning and scheduling sleepovers, outings, play dates with friends
E
Execution
- Carrying out sleepovers, outings, play dates with friends
- Monitoring and regulating social media accounts in coordination with “Discipline & Screen” time cardholder
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Are they appropriately socialized in real life? Do you feel in control of their social media?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- It’s a Daily Grind: relentless and time-bound. Make sure each of you holds a fair share of these, ideally one from each suit.
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.