A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Unicorn Space (Player 2)
What makes you uniquely you, and how do you share it with the world? Unicorn Space is about the passion and purpose that drive you to be the best version of yourself, and what’s on the line—your identity, fulfillment, and marriage—if you don’t nurture what makes you come alive. It may seem like a fairy tale to carve out time to get back to playing piano again, but it’s time to reclaim your gifts beyond your career and family without needing permission or feeling guilt.
Note: An exercise class, a mani/pedi, hitting a sports bar with a buddy, or catching up on your social media feeds are not Unicorn Space. Your career may be if it’s a Category 5 storm of passion. Be realistic, but think big as you work to discover or reclaim your essence and talents. Both you and your partner must take this card!
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
Unicorn Space is about the curiosity and purpose that drive you to be the best version of yourself.
Planning
- Identify a curiosity – what would you like to create more time and mental and physical space for today?
- Plan to share it with the world – when your Unicorn Space goes beyond yourself, it becomes so much bigger and that much more fulfilling.
- Set a goal – put yourself on a committed schedule that includes a specific timeline by which you will reveal it to others.
- Get your partner’s support and support them in return.
- Schedule a weekly time for your Unicorn Space and prioritize it!
Execution
- Reclaim your gifts beyond your family and career without needing permission.
- Don’t allow guilt, shame or “domestic encroachment” to cause you to miss your scheduled time.
- Share your Unicorn Space with the world!
The card asks you
What makes me feel at least two of: exhilarated, content, fulfilled, or focused? My Unicorn Space for the next six months will be ____. I will commit __ hours a week to pursue it.
Holding it well
- Both partners hold their own Unicorn Space card. Always.
- Name it, set a six-month goal, and commit weekly hours.
- Protect your partner’s time as fiercely as your own.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.